Where Have All the Real Men Gone?

Luckily, I have been blessed by God to be married to a real man. He's part country boy, as you can plainly see posing with his Christmas rifle. Part soldier, an army sgt. and still an avid military history buff and general lover of all things military. Part spiritual thinker, always looking beyond what this world says matters and getting to the Truth of things - capital "T"!!

Tim is the reason I write today. He believes in me and loves me - but he definitely wears the pants around here too!! In my estimation he is one of the most endangered species on earth - A Real Man.

Every day I hear stories from other women or see it on tv - the feminized man of the 21st century. Bluh! Yuk! Gag! Men act like little boys most of the time who need to be care for and guided by their bossy and/or dominating wives. Worse still, some don't even qualify as little boys but rather full fledged women! Sensitive and emotional and crying on Oprah or some other sort of nonsense.

God had a design for man, and I know it sure as heck wasn't Quear Eye for the Straight Guy! So what has happened to all the real men? Where have they gone? Well honestly, many of them are dying and aren't being replaced. Those men of the WWII generation are the kind of examples of real manhood that are becoming a rarity today. Their own sons in many cases have suffered the consequences of the 60's - namely the feminization of our whole culture. Many baby boomer dads either became so "soft" that they failed to raise their sons to be men or became so self-centered that they failed to raise their sons at all.

Tim is a product of a divorced family. Raised by his mother, an exceptional woman, he had no male role models to guide him into manhood. So, and he would tell you this himself, he did the next best thing - he joined the military, the army to be precise. This is where he learned to be a man. He and I have often discussed this topic and he swears that if only more boys would enter the military this country would reap the benefits. More real men to marry and raise families and be responsible...

But alas, boys today are not knocking down the recruitment officers doors in order to enlist. They spend their time playing video games well into their late 20's and go the way of Extreme Sports (which aren't really sports at all) and long hair with plenty of tacky tatoos. Boys who are athletic and assertive and natural leaders are squelched at the earliest age possible. "Little Johnny, you need to calm down, stop playing so rough, you know it doesn't matter who wins or loses, we're just here to have fun..." "It's ok to cry little Johnny, maybe you need to find a good therapist and go on Prozac..."

So, before I start on a full fledged rant let me end by saying this. I thank God for my husband. He gained a vision of manhood inside his heart's imagination and pusued that vision the best that he could. No, his life wasn't the picture perfect ideal. He had a lot stacked against him. But he never felt sorry for himself. He pushed forward and worked hard and sacrificed when needed. He leads and protects his family like Real Men Do!